We all know that sex is a very crucial part to any healthy marriage. It builds trust, confidence, attraction, and of course, intimacy. In my perfect world (and for sure in Ryan's perfect world), I would be a little sex-kitten wife. I would wear sexy nightgowns to bed; although I think my XL Blazers shirt, basketball shorts, nursing bra, and nursing pads is pretty darn sexy. I would surprise him with sex on the dining room table or on the wash machine like you see in movies. Don't worry everyone, you can eat in peace at our table knowing that doesn't happen in our house. We would do it everyday and even multiple times a day when I am feeling extra frisky. I would be more spontaneous, adventurous, and creative.
Knowing that I am pretty far from our "perfect world," I know I need to take some steps and initiative to keep our sex life thriving because ultimately it keeps our marriage thriving. I know that with age, having a new baby and toddler, and just life in general, I haven't been keeping up my end of the bedroom. Don't think I am like a dried up prune or anything like that. Just like most relationships and most women, I don't give it up as much as Ryan and quite honestly, I would like.
So, last night I attended an oil class called "Lucy Libido" that was taught by my friend, Angela. It was about oils to use in the bedroom, as well as oils that increase libido and help balance hormones in your body. I think that even just by going to the class showed Ryan that I am wanting to put in more effort to build our intimacy. As I headed out the door to the class Ryan says to me with a wink and a smile, "So should I be like 'ready' for you when you get home?" (Typical guy, right?) I smiled back and said with a shrug, "Maybe." (Typical girl, right?)
The class had 5 attendees and we all enjoyed watching Angela blush through some of the topics and some of the language used in the class script. We also had many laughs when talking about the differences between men and women when it comes to sex. Angela covered several oils that increase "stiffness" and stamina in men. I think the words were something like "It helps the soldier salute for longer." All of us agreed that that wasn't an issue in our bedrooms. There was another one that was nicknamed "nature's Viagara." Again, a non-issue over here.
There were a few oils that had benefits to both men and women. Like Orange, for example, is an aphrodisiac for both sexes and releases stress so you can relax in the bedroom. A good one to diffuse when setting the mood. Or Cypress which increases blood flow and we all know the benefits of increased blood flow. A good one to put on inner thighs and 2 inches below naval.
There were a couple that sparked my interest because they were hormone related. Especially since I just had a baby, my hormones are all sorts of crazy so balancing my hormones isn't just good for the bedroom but also the well-being of the people I interact with daily. Progessence Plus helps stimulate the production of progesterone, hence the name. And Clary Sage helps promote the production of estrogen. These oils will take time to have an affect but I thought they are probably worth a shot.
As part of the class, we made an "inner thigh potion" to take home. It had 10 drops Cypress, 10 drops Orange, 20 drops Clary Sage and then coconut oil. It was called "Juicy."
Of course when I got home, Ryan asked what I learned, but of course all he really wanted to hear was "I have this magical oil that will make me horny 24/7." Dream on! I told him about the oils for hormones. Blah, blah, blah. Told him about the totally unnecessary man oils. Blah, blah, blah. Then I told him about "Juicy." As we were heading to bed, he says, "So are you going to rub that on your inner thighs and let me know when your ready?" Okay, I literally laughed out loud when he said that and when I just typed it. That is what 15+ years together will do to you. I responded, "I think it would be better if you rubbed it on my inner thighs and I rubbed it on yours. Then we will see what happens." He agreed that my way was much better. The story stops here because we all know what happens when you touch your husband's inner thighs and he touches yours.
So are you wondering what the magical love potion, "Juicy" did? Well... so am I. I have no idea if it had some sort of physical effect. I wouldn't say I had some euphoric, out of body experience or anything. But were Ryan and I both highly satisfied? I mean, duh. So I can't confirm or deny its effectiveness. But here is what I can confirm. Ultimately it did what it was supposed to. It increased intimacy and passion. Whether that was a physical response, emotional response, or both, I don't know. By bringing home the oil and being willing to try it, we brought some fun and adventure into the bedroom. Do I think that using oils in the bedroom will make me the sex-kitten that I aspire to be? No. But if we have fun and our intimacy increases then it's worth keeping by the bedside.
P.S. If you read this and think you might like to watch Angela blush and learn about some sexy oils, I would definitely recommend it. There was so no pressure to buy and it wasn't a sales pitch. It was literally just great information. And to top it off, we left with some "Juicy" love potion. If you think you might be interested in a class, let me know and I will get you in contact with Angela.
P.S.S. I did decide to add a few oils to my monthly order to get us started. I bought Orange (super cheap by the way), Cypress, and Progessence Plus. I had already ordered Clary Sage for another reason and I tried to buy Idaho Blue Spruce because it was in a lot of the blends but it was out of stock.
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